Hello Pham, I just observed an interaction here that upset me greatly. A member of our community reached out in the darkness to express their gratitude for this being a safe space where they could get support in a stressful time and not be met with a barrage of political opinions and they were met with...a political opinion. Let me be clear: this definitely violates the one rule of DON'T BE A DICK.
If you feel the need to express your opinion about something politically, feel free to do so in the general community--NOT under the post of a member in distress. It's not the time or the place. We are Pham. We are here to love and support one another when we are struggling, not make a shitty situation even shittier by making it about us and our opinions.
Please ask yourself before you post a response to someone: does this need to be said and am I the one to say it? The answer is often NO.
I'm fiercely protective of the members of this community and keeping it safe. I'm even more protective of the women. And I will go full mama bear.
This week on #FactorySettings @justjeren and I talk about the elephant in the room. MONEY! We talk about when we first became aware of it, how it affected our parents' divorces, how much we spent on our addiction, being dependent, financial insecurity and so much more!
https://bridgetphetasy.substack.com/p/factory-settings-17#details
I continue my series with Thomas de Zengotita as we go through his book Mediated chapter by chapter. This week the topic is identity politics and we cover a lot of ground. #WalkInsWelcome
Hello new followers, I hope I don’t disappoint you. I want this place to feel like home, where we can escape the Thunderdome and process the world. Where we can post dog pics and recipes and book recommendations. Where we support each other as we get sober, lose weight, embark on new business opportunities, creative endeavors, relationships and travels. I want this to be your oasis of sanity and laughter in an increasingly mad world. A creative outlet where you can share your spirit with us.
We might not have any control over the news cycle—but we can control our habits and attitude. It all starts with us. And hopefully a little piece of that will start here.
Two times this week I had the bizarre experience of getting in touch with an old friend and sending them a picture of my daughter and having them respond with, “Who is that?” To which I responded, “She is my daughter!”
Now, let me tell you, Newport knows how to celebrate like the Irish. The parade kicks off at 11 a.m. and if you want the truly local experience, you’ll already be on your way to blacking out by the time the streets are lined with green-clad revelers ready to paint the town green (with vomit.)
Oh I’ve been here before—this isn’t even theoretical. First of all, it depends on the city but the absolute best way to get to know any city is to start walking. So if I was in a city with no money or friends, I would just start exploring. You can easily look up a walking tour of any city online if you’re someone who needs more structure and wants to take in some architecture and history.
